10 Ways to Support Yourself When You're Struggling to Cope

Let’s be honest, parenting can be overwhelming. Whether you’re in the thick of toddler tantrums, juggling packed lunches and packed diaries, or just feeling like you’re not doing enough… you’re not alone.

Many parents have moments (or whole seasons) of doubt, exhaustion, or guilt. Life doesn’t pause while we raise our children; we’re also trying to meet work demands, care for others, keep on top of the house, and maybe even have a minute to ourselves. If you’re finding things tough right now, here are 10 gentle, practical ideas that might help:

1. Notice what you're doing well

It’s easy to focus on what’s going wrong, but try to give yourself credit, too. Did you manage to get everyone out the door today? Stay calm during a meltdown? That matters. Little wins add up.

2. Carve out time just for you

Even five or ten minutes to sit down with a cuppa, breathe, and switch off can make a big difference. You’re allowed to enjoy things that aren’t about your kids.

3. Move your body, if you can

A walk around the block, dancing in the kitchen, or stretching before bed, whatever works for you. If you can do it with a friend or another parent, even better. It’s good for your mind as well as your body.

4. Connect with others

Being able to talk (and laugh!) with people who get it can be a lifeline. If there’s a group at your child’s school, nursery, or in your community, give it a try. You might find some unexpected friendships.

5. Talk, and be heard

Sometimes you just need someone to listen. Not to fix things. Just to let you say how you really feel. Whether it’s a friend, a family member, or a trusted professional, talking helps.

6. Focus on what is working

When things feel hard, try thinking back to what has helped before. Maybe there was a small change or routine that worked, a reminder that you do have tools to get through tough times.

7. Be kind to yourself

That inner voice that says, “I’m not good enough” or “I can’t do this”? Challenge it. Try saying, “I’m doing my best,” or “I’m learning, and that’s OK.” You wouldn’t speak harshly to a friend, so treat yourself with that same care.

8. Practice being assertive

It’s not always easy, but standing up for yourself can feel empowering. Try role-playing a tricky conversation in your head (or with someone you trust). Remember, your voice matters.

9. Make learning fun and relaxed

Using something like Mouse Club can turn getting ready for school into a positive and playful experience that you and your child can share. It’s not about perfection, it’s about connection.

10. Reach out for extra support if you need it

There’s no shame in asking for help. Whether it’s from a local service, a school family worker, or a helpline, support is out there. You don’t have to do this all on your own.

You’re doing better than you think.
Parenting isn’t about having all the answers; it’s about showing up with love, even when it’s hard. Be gentle with yourself.